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Sleeping Arrangements

I haven’t written much lately as Mum has settled back down into her ‘normal’ confused state but we’ve had no more parallel universes.

She’s started doing things such as standing up to go somewhere and immediately forgetting where; putting on odd socks or even just one sock; putting away things in inappropriate places. I keep having to tidy the drawers in her bedroom as everything just gets hopelessly muddled. She tells me she can’t find something which is literally right in front of her.

The issue with the headphones is driving me crazy. She keeps forgetting how to use them and just turns up the TV to almost full volume. I sort it out for her and explain about the headphones, then 5 minutes later it happens again.

She’s also talking to non-existent people again. They always seem to be on the wall to the right of her chair. When I ask her who she’s talking to, she says she’s talking to herself. I’m not sure if she doesn’t want to admit she can see someone, or she just doesn’t know.

I never tell her when I’m going out in the evening until it’s about to happen as she really doesn’t like it. However, I’m determined not to give in and stay at home all the time. I have to get out for my own sanity.

I spent a while today looking at some old photos of mum when she was in her early 20’s. How beautiful she was!

Mum just came to find me in my bedroom to ask me about sleeping arrangements. She wanted to know if she was sleeping with me in my room and the other person would be in her room. Don’t know where that came from but had to spend about half an hour giving her a hug and reassuring her that things are exactly the same as every Monday night. She’s in her bedroom, I’m in mine and there’s no other person!

Even later:
Mum came to ask me what to do with her pillows – she’d taken the pillows off her bed and put them on the settee in the lounge. When I asked why she hadn’t gone to bed in her bedroom, she said everything looked different. Uh oh! Here we go again!

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Posted by on February 21, 2012 in Diary


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Getting Her Leg Over

Well, it’s a New Year and I’ve been too busy with the usual celebrations to catch up with my blog.

Mum has been reasonably OK considering we have had a continual stream of visitors for the past couple of weeks.

To be honest, I think she’s worse now that everything’s settled back down. Or maybe it’s just that I notice it more clearly when I’ve only got her to worry about. So many family members have been around, I haven’t had to concentrate on looking after mum as I’ve had plenty of help.

As usual, she has been very amusing.

This morning’s highlight was bath time. For some reason she managed much better than usual today. My brother and sister-in-law called in at lunchtime and mum told them that she had no trouble getting her leg over today! She meant over the side of the bath. The nice thing was that she realised what she had said and laughed herself.

I was at home most of the time today and found myself becoming increasingly annoyed with what I call the ‘tv remote, headphones saga’. When mum started becoming a little deaf, my brother bought her some headphones to listen to the TV so she wouldn’t have to turn it up too loud for the neighbouring flats. That went really well until she started with dementia. She is on the verge of forgetting how to use the headphones which have a volume control on the earpiece. I frequently come in to find her wearing headphones but with the TV at full volume. When I am in the house, I tend to put the TV on mute so only she can hear it but she constantly picks up the remote to try and switch channels and in so doing, turns up the volume.

She is now unable to work out times of programmes from a TV guide so needs constant help with finding things she likes. She used to love her TV, particularly Coronation Street but we now find she can’t concentrate on any programme for any length of time and if asked, she doesn’t really know what’s happening.

Another problem is that the boundaries between reality and what she sees on the
TV are getting blurred. In Come Dine With Me, where strangers get together and take it in turns to cook a meal over 4 nights, she often thinks we are in the programme and asks questions like “when is the food coming?” or “when do we have to leave to get to the next meal?”

Some time ago, she had been watching Casualty on her own and rang my sister in great distress, saying that there was a Paramedic in her lounge trying to resuscitate a badly injured person.

Apparently this is quite common, confusing reality and fantasy. No, that’s not quite right as much of the TV she watches is ‘Reality TV’! It’s the confusing of what’s happening here at home in her flat with what’s happening on the TV.

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Posted by on January 2, 2012 in Diary


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Hiding Round the Corner

As mum is quite deaf, she watches the TV in headphones (that’s a whole other story for another time!)

Today while she was watching Jeremy Kyle (!) she turned to the wall and started to tell someone (?) how we went to B&Q yesterday and the Xmas trees were very expensive. That was true but not sure whom she was telling. She then asked the same person ‘Is she hiding round that corner?’

The hallucinations seem to be returning.

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Posted by on November 30, 2011 in Diary


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