Today I have invited 2 of mum’s friends to call round for coffee and mince pies.
It’s a sad fact that as dementia develops, friends tend to keep their distance. They’re not being unkind, they just don’t know how to handle it. Mum had a close friend for several years whom she met regularly and went on holiday with several times. As soon as mum started with dementia, the friend distanced herself and has never been in touch since. I think it scares elderly people and reminds them it can happen to anyone. Anyway, Susan and Norah have agreed to come this morning.
I stay in to make coffee and set out some cakes and biscuits. Mum has recently become unable to make a decent cup of coffee although I have tried to re-teach her to no avail.
Then I go round to visit a friend for an hour and a half. They are still there when I return and everything seems to have gone ok. Norah invites Mum round to her house on New Year’s Day and I agree to take her.
When I speak to Norah later on the phone, I ask her how she found Mum. “She’s no longer the Kate we know and love.” was the sad reply.